Enable `Hint Mode Equiv` now that stdpp requires Coq 8.12

Includes fixes for Coq 8.12/8.13 — but we might want to drop those.

Rationale: while Coq bug https://github.com/coq/coq/issues/14441 is still relevant, Iris chose to pay the costs of those annotations. Back then, stdpp didn't because it still supported Coq 8.11 which suffered from additional bugs (fixed in 8.12) — Iris still has this comment:

 (* No Hint Mode set in stdpp because of Coq bugs #5735 and #9058, only
 fixed in Coq >= 8.12, which Iris depends on. *)